Something’s just kill me...today has been a day for them too! First the docs, then the car place, and to finish a home school blog. I will start with the blog since it is a growing trend I have been noticing.
Over the past month or two I have heard numerous people talking about their "sensitive" or "spirited" or "hyperactive" or "overly shy" children; and all of these talks seem to have one thing in common, how do I shield or protect my child. On the surface this seems reasonable but then when I really listen to these stories I'm left wondering "how do you expect your children to survive in the adult world?" Here are a few examples (these are combine stories of multiple families):
My child is so sensitive that if he is given work or a test where he doesn't know the answers and the answers are next to impossible for him to guess the answers to he get depressed and emotional. So, I have decided to not give him anything he doesn't already have a handle on.
If you never give the child things were he may fail how will he ever learn to succeed? Maybe I'm looking at this wrong but in the work world there are days where half the things you are asked to do, you have no clue how to and you either speak up and say I don't know how to do this (which might be followed by "try your best") or just go for it. Either way if you have never been faced with this as a child how are you supposed to be ok with it as an adult?
My child is very spirited and there are many times when I just can't get him to participate no matter how much I want him to. Then there are times when he seems wonderful until he has a fit and starts hurting another child.
Now, please don't get me wrong here normally I would have no issue with this one since I understand this happens at times and I do understand what a spirited child is (at least what books say spirited children are). My concern for this one comes when the child is now 8 years old or older and still having these issues on normal bases. Even then I wouldn't worry really but what I normally see is that the parents NEVER have the child talk out the issue with the other child. I'm not saying this has to happen right when the violence starts but the children need to be taught how to work through their issues. If the parents always just rush them off after such a deal how will they ever learn to work through their issues?
I don't know maybe I worry about things too much but it seems we are too interested in making sure our children don't suffer that we aren't preparing them well enough for the adult world. How long can we do this before it bites us in the butt?
Ok, enough of that one...there are other stories too but the above are the ones I'm hearing a lot recently and they worry me. On to car people...I'm sure a few out there have had people come to the door selling a car package that gives you free oil changes for about a year. Well, last September one of these came to my door and I thought it was a good deal so I bought one. I ended up giving to family for the holidays.
***post not finished....from months ago...finished today***
Well, on the sheet I purchased it says that the car place is open on Saturdays...I asked the salesman if this was true and he said "yes, two Saturdays a month." When my mother (the one we gave the certificate too) called to get an appointment for Saturday she was informed that the car place was NEVER open to the public on weekends and that she could drop off her car before they opened and pick it up afterward if she liked but that was all the could really offer her unless she could bring the car in during the week. My mother works in SODO and takes the bus to work everyday at about 8 am and gets back home about 7pm; making it next to impossible for her to take her car in when they are open.
She gives me the certificate and tells me "I can't use this thing...they aren't open on weekends and they don't care what the certificate says." I really didn't want anything to do with this but knowing it isn't going to go away if I don't do something I take it and go to the car place. They tell me that they did it as a fundraiser and that they aren't responsible for anything on the certificate including the hours for their shop has never been open to the pubic on the weekends; that occasionally the mechanics come in on the weekends to "catch up" on the work load. I'm then told that I'm welcome to bring the car during normal hours and they will honor the certificate but that I will have to talk to the fundraising company that sold it to me if I want anything else. Needless to say I will never use All Pro Automotive; since they don't care who they do business with (or who they let represent them) I can only assume they behave the same with their work.
The doctors...I think I already said all that...they put me on meds that I should have NEVER been given...what else is new! Don't listen to the patient just give them drugs and tell them to go away.
Don't get me wrong...not all doctors are like this...matter of fact most care more than they should (my hubby has been working with drs for the past 3 yrs and I have gotten to meet a lot of great drs...my personal ones just seem to suck!). I live in a city where the Catholic hospital that would take our insurance when we first moved here and for some reason I never changed after we changed insurance. I knew I should have but I didn't.
I have been asking and begging for 3yrs now to have my tubes tied but every time I say something to the doctors I'm given all kinds of other things to talk about in hopes that I will forget I want this done. They also do not listen very well...I say I'm depressed and that it got worse after D and with each period I get very nasty, bitchy. Some how all they heard was "mood swings...don't want to get pregnant" and gave me Yaz (birth control). I never took the pills since when I read the book that comes with it, it told me I couldn't take the pills since I have a really high potassium level and I take ibuprofen for my RA almost daily. These are the top warnings about this pill and I wasn't asked by the doctor about either of them. So, I'm still very pissy during that time of the month but we are living through it.
17 years ago